The Power of Vulnerability as a SAHM
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You Don’t Have to Pretend You Have It All Together, Mama
By Zarryah | Christian Motherhood, Faith & Encouragement
Hey there, I’m Zarryah! I help Christian moms grow closer to Jesus while raising their little ones with love, patience, and faith. Let’s be honest—motherhood isn’t always easy, but with Christ at the center, we can find real joy in this journey. Whether you’re folding laundry, hiding in the pantry with a snack, or stealing a quiet moment for yourself—welcome. You’re not alone here.
Today, I want to talk about something that we all go through as stay-at-home moms... but hardly ever say out loud: the pressure to look like we’ve got it all together.
The Truth Behind the Mask
Being a stay-at-home mom can feel like running a marathon barefoot… while carrying three kids. One of whom is mysteriously sticky. Sound familiar?
But you know what makes it even harder? Pretending like it’s all fine. That we’re managing perfectly. That we’re never overwhelmed, burnt out, or silently crying in the bathroom.
Spoiler alert: no one has it all together.
The world may tell us that vulnerability is weakness. But God says otherwise. He tells us that vulnerability is where healing begins.
“Therefore confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” – James 5:16
How can we pray for one another if we’re all pretending we’re fine?
When You Feel Alone, You’re Not
I used to be the mom who wanted to do everything perfectly. I juggled it all—for a while. But over time, I started to feel more and more isolated… more unhappy… like I had no one to turn to.
And I truly believe that’s exactly what the enemy wants—for us to feel alone. He wants to separate us from community. From the very thing God designed to lift us up.
Even Jesus emphasized community. At the Last Supper, He told His disciples to stay united and build each other up. Because if we could do it all alone, why would He have told us to support one another?
“Just as each of us has one body with many members... so in Christ, we who are many form one body.” – Romans 12:4–5
The Lies Moms Hear in Their Heads
The enemy loves to whisper:
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“You should be stronger.”
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“You’re not a good enough mom.”
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“You messed up again.”
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“Look at her—she’s doing it better.”
But those are lies meant to isolate you. To break your spirit.
Mama, the truth is: you were never meant to carry this all alone.
Real Maturity Is Knowing You Need Help
Being an adult—especially a Christian mom—means knowing we can’t do it all ourselves.
It’s time to let go of the comparison game. No one’s life is as perfect as it looks on Instagram. And if they seem like they have it all together? Just know, behind the filters, they’re human too.
“I appeal to you… that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment.” – 1 Corinthians 1:10
Unity starts when we drop the mask and say, “Hey, I’m struggling too. Let’s pray. Let’s support each other.”
What Vulnerability Really Looks Like
Sometimes, the holiest thing we can say is:
“I yelled at my kids today. I need Jesus. I need His forgiveness.”
Here are just a few ways vulnerability can show up:
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Texting a prayer request to a friend who is rooted in Christ
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Crying during worship, letting your soul be bare before God
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Hugging your child and weeping with them in your lap
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Saying no when your plate is already full
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Confessing your burnout and letting others step in to help
Vulnerability isn’t weakness. Pretending to be okay when we’re not—that’s fear and insecurity talking. And I’ve been there too.
Be Real—With Yourself, Others, and God
You don’t have to be perfect. Jesus doesn’t call us to perfection—He calls us to truth.
So be real with yourself.
Be real with the right people.
And above all, be real with God. He already knows what you’re carrying. He sees every tear, every sacrifice, every sleepless night.
God can’t bless the mask.
He blesses the real you.
If you feel like you don’t have anyone to turn to, start with Jesus. Ask Him to guide you to your people. Your community. Your support.
Because He shows up, friend. Every time.
You’re Not Alone
If this post encouraged you, send it to another mama who might be silently carrying too much. Let’s break the silence and lift each other up in love and truth.
You are doing better than you think. And God sees everything you do.
Stay rooted, stay real, and remember: you don’t have to do it alone.
With love,
Zarryah
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