Let God In: How to Be Vulnerable the Biblical Way

We all crave connection. But for many of us, vulnerability feels terrifying. Opening up can leave us exposed, hurt, or misunderstood. The good news? Vulnerability was never meant to be done alone—or without God.

Here’s how to open up biblically, so your vulnerability becomes a doorway to deeper healing and stronger relationships.

Start with Prayer—Every Single Time

Before you pour your heart out to anyone, pour it out to God. He already knows what you’re going through, but there’s something powerful about inviting Him into your process.

In my own journey, I’ve opened up to people without praying first. Sometimes it felt great—other times, it ended in disappointment. But the moments I brought God in first? Even if the friendship didn’t last, *my peace did*.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” – Philippians 4:6

Wait for His Response

Praying is easy. *Waiting* is where the real faith kicks in. I used to pray and then jump right into action. I’d assume an open door was automatically from God.

But not everything that looks good is *God’s good*. Waiting teaches us to trust—not in outcomes, but in *God's timing*.

Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!” – Psalm 27:14

Trust the Process (Even When It's Silent)

When you feel like God isn’t answering, remind yourself: silence is not absence. Trust that your prayers are heard. God is never late. He’s never unaware. And He will always give you what’s best—even if it doesn’t look like what you expected.

rust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” – Proverbs 3:5

Analyze Your Circle (with Biblical Lenses of course!)

Ask God to help you *see clearly*. Are the people closest to you pointing you to Christ—or pulling you away from Him?

Here are some prayerful questions to ask:

* Lord, did You place this person in my life?

* Am I helping them grow towards you—or are they helping me?

* Is this connection bearing fruit?

Sometimes we’re vulnerable with people God never asked us to walk with. It’s not about judgment—it’s about discernment.

Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” – 1 Corinthians 15:33

Strengthen What’s Meant to Stay, Release What’s Not

Once you have clarity, lean into what’s *Holy and God approved*. Pour into the relationships God confirms. And walk away from the ones He says to release—even if it hurts and trust I know sometimes I can.

There is a time for everything… a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1,5

Letting go is not failure. It’s faith in action.

 

Vulnerability done God’s way brings freedom. It requires prayer, patience, trust, and discernment. Let Him be your guide, your filter, and your safe place.

If you’re in a season where you’re learning to open up biblically, know that you’re not alone. I’ve walked this road—and I’m still learning to walk it every day with Him-it is so worth it.